represents them not you

It’s hard to know what other people are actually thinking. There can be a variety of reasons why they have that expression on their face. What we think are their thoughts are actually our thoughts about their thoughts about our thoughts- that’s far too tenuous to be able to be sure of being correct. Perhaps more importantly though is the recognition that how a person judges another represents them more than it represents you.

Action: It can be helpful to consider what other people think about you to be none of your business. It’s very hard to be clear on what that is to begin with and when we spend time trying to guess we’re taking time away from positive development which, if anything could, would impress others anyway.