‘Be the change that you wish to see in the world.’ Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948). We sometimes underestimate the capacity that we have to lead others simply by setting an example. Rather than just trying to convince someone to change, modelling the change we would like to see can be a very effective way of leading by example. This also works for ourselves individually too: by practicing how we want our life to be we set an example for ourselves.
Action: Clarify what change you would like to see happen and, rather than focusing on what you don’t want, change your words, tone of voice, body language, breathing, actions etc to match that of a person who is consistent with the change that you want to see happen.