Things get psychologically connected to other things all the time, sometimes deliberately but more often accidentally. You’re probably had the experience of smelling a fragrance and being brought back to a particular time or place, or perhaps you have a favourite colour which symbolises something for you. This ability is used regularly by advertisers to associate their product or brand with that which you already find appealing. It also has great therapeutic application: by connecting to resourceful feelings it can be a bit like a ship putting down it’s anchor, keeping you centred despite the current of thoughts and feelings.
Action: When two things happen around the same time they are typically paired together. By focusing on the feelings you want more of, with as much positive emotion as possible, while using simple triggers like taking a deep breath, physical gestures, music or any other specific cue, that same trigger is later able to summon back those feelings. Your anchor can then be used when you need it (like before a meeting) and it’s also a good idea to use it at least three times a day so you stay centred. In practice it gives you a feeling of waking up: a bit like watching television and then the ad break arrives and you become once again aware of the room and the options you have.